Inhale Confidence .. Exhale Doubt

Hey Ladies, its me again. I hope you’re all well, healthy and most importantly happy!
 
What is the meaning of beautiful? Urban Dictionary ‘Someone whose personality and physical appearance is considered extremely attractive to someone else.’
As you an see from the above meaning there are 2 components to the word beautiful and it upsets me that girls and women believe that being beautiful is only based your outside appearance when in fact, most of your beauty comes from within.
 
There is so much more to people that makes a person beautiful e.g.. Being smart, funny, kind, compassionate, good at sport, a great cook, fairness, loyalty and generous the list goes on... So why is it that people think being beautiful predominantly means whether you are physically beautiful?
 
“You’re so pretty”
“I wish I looked like you/her”
“If I loose x amount of kgs ill be prettier”
“I can’t leave the house without make up”
“If I die my hair lighter I’ll be prettier”
“ I want my lips bigger”
“I hate my wrinkles”
…Again the list goes on.
 
 This makes me so sad to hear so many girls and women of all different ages loath and belittle themselves for no reason other than the fact they don’t like their appearance. Let’s get this straight, when you belittle yourself or others for traits based on what someone looks like you are only seeing the superficial layer of that person. You don’t see their kind soul, beautiful heart or funny personality. There is such a huge pressure in society these days that has made girls and women judge their appearance based on societies perception of what beauty looks like. Why do women feel pressured to keep a youthful appearance up at such early ages?
 
I believe social media has a HUGE impact in todays society with girls and women scrolling through Instagram and Facebook looking at all these celebrities changing the way they look with cosmetic procedures such as boob jobs, cheek fillers, botox, butt lifts etc. You have girls as young as 18 starting to begin these treatments wanting to transform their already beautiful faces and one thing leads to another which slowly starts an undeniable unhealthy obsession.
You have all these big named injectable nurses promoting that:
 “We’d all be sagging and wrinkling”
“Injectables decrease chances of wrinkles due to age”
Or they show photos like this ...

​Promoting that you will be prettier after you take a seat in their chair. I find it disgusting, not one mentions that the best way to prevent wrinkles starts from within and nothing is more important for you health and body then hydration. Your diet has a huge impact, its important to fuel it with lots of antioxidants, saturated fats + Omega3 is super important and its essential for glowing skin, using a non-toxic, chemical free skincare range as the more chemicals your products have the more damage they will do to your skin. Taking supplements can aid the help of a healthier body inside and out and girls you need your beauty sleep, getting enough sleep every night is critical. (Read my upcoming blog on wrinkles)
 
When you had someone as famous as Kylie Jenner having her lips done at the age of 17/18 this sends a concerning message to many others the same age thinking its okay to get them that young. 
My question is why are there so many girls as young as 18 years of age beginning facial filler injectables?
 
When I was growing up I remember being so weird, hanging out with my friends jumping on the trampoline playing board games and just enjoying growing up…  Its crazy how different growing up is now compared to 8-10 years ago. Having a childhood is so important for your development. 
 
I want clarify by saying this blog may be confrontational to some as some of the topics I talk about are very relatable to some girls and women who are very close friends and family to me. I want to state clearly that I’m in no way passing judgment or criticizing girls and women who this implies to. My aim of my business is to promote self-love, respect, worth and confidence. I want to influence girls and women to be 110% confident in themselves without all these added enhancements because EVERYONE is beautiful in their own unique way. I know that these treatments do have a huge impact and it does make girls and women feel happier and more confident which is great or they just simply like them, which is fine also. But if you use these treatments to mask a feeling how do you ever expect to feel confident in your own skin ever again? When does enough become enough?
 
My friend and I were walking the other day and were talking about life, and my business, botox and girls and women with lack of self love and I told her I used to be very insecure and nothing like I am today and she was flabbergasted She turned to me and said “But you’re so confident I cant picture you ever being shy and insecure” In past blogs I’ve explained what I used to be like, I was unbearable, ruled by my emotions, insecure and cried almost everyday I was not a fun person to be around. But one day I decided to move forward and look at the bigger picture, and started to fight and take control of my life again. I feel like I can connect with all you beautiful girls and women struggling I know your pain, I know how scary it is to put your whole natural self out there, I’ve been there for years and years where I loathed myself and thought I didn’t deserve anything but unhappiness.  I changed my hair colour heaps of times, tried diet after diet, starved myself, couldn’t leave the house without tan or make up.  In the end, doing these things didn’t help me feel better if anything it made me feel worse… WHY? Because I deprived my body of the fuel it needed to be healthy, I ruined my hair because I thought changing my colour would make me feel better. It didn’t. It only damaged it. I admit that in the last year I did get hair extensions because I hated how thin my hair was and yes for the time I did love having long locks, but I do now enjoy and embrace my short hair as its healthier than its ever been and it looks natural. I had lip fillers this year because I wanted to see what the big deal was and to be honest at the time I thought what the fuck have I done? But they’ve settled and I don’t mind them but I’m not rushing back to get them done anytime soon because I’m happy with how my lips are/were.
 
I love my life, yes there are days that I want to scream and I feel defeated but I don’t dwell on it because no matter what life throws at me I’m strong, I’m a fighter I know everything will be okay like the famous Bethany Hamilton says:“I've learned life is a lot like surfing. When you get caught in the impact zone, you need to get right back up, because you never know what's over the next wave... and if you have faith, anything is possible, anything at all”
 
Ill admit if you had of asked my opinion 1 week ago on my feeling towards botox and other cosmetic procedures I would of been quite cynical BUT I have changed my approach as I don’t think they are as bad as I previously thought. Yes I do believe girls are getting them too young as they are meant for women in their late 20s and older but at the end of the day if it makes you happy and confident then that’s a wonderful thing BUT don’t think you need them to feel beautiful because you don’t. Girls and women should want to grow older gracefully and enjoy life while they are young and not put too much pressure on themselves.
 
You are more than your appearance. If you think all you have to offer this world is your sex appeal, a smooth face, big lips, fit body than you’re mistaken.  Its about what’s within which is kindness, compassion, funniness, forgiveness, being friendly and approachable, the list goes on... Your value is not limited to your appearance its so much more than that and girls and women need to start believing that they are so much more than their appearance.
 
This is my message to you beautiful girls and women:
 
Nothing makes a woman more beautiful then the belief that she is beautiful. Inhale confidence exhale doubt. You deserve the world.
 
 
Much love
Bek xx