Hey Ladies, its me again. I hope you’re all well, healthy and most importantly happy!
 
What is the meaning of beautiful? Urban Dictionary ‘Someone whose personality and physical appearance is considered extremely attractive to someone else.’
As you an see from the above meaning there are 2 components to the word beautiful and it upsets me that girls and women believe that being beautiful is only based your outside appearance when in fact, most of your beauty comes from within.
 
There is so much more to people that makes a person beautiful e.g.. Being smart, funny, kind, compassionate, good at sport, a great cook, fairness, loyalty and generous the list goes on... So why is it that people think being beautiful predominantly means whether you are physically beautiful?
 
“You’re so pretty”
“I wish I looked like you/her”
“If I loose x amount of kgs ill be prettier”
“I can’t leave the house without make up”
“If I die my hair lighter I’ll be prettier”
“ I want my lips bigger”
“I hate my wrinkles”
…Again the list goes on.
 
 This makes me so sad to hear so many girls and women of all different ages loath and belittle themselves for no reason other than the fact they don’t like their appearance. Let’s get this straight, when you belittle yourself or others for traits based on what someone looks like you are only seeing the superficial layer of that person. You don’t see their kind soul, beautiful heart or funny personality. There is such a huge pressure in society these days that has made girls and women judge their appearance based on societies perception of what beauty looks like. Why do women feel pressured to keep a youthful appearance up at such early ages?
 
I believe social media has a HUGE impact in todays society with girls and women scrolling through Instagram and Facebook looking at all these celebrities changing the way they look with cosmetic procedures such as boob jobs, cheek fillers, botox, butt lifts etc. You have girls as young as 18 starting to begin these treatments wanting to transform their already beautiful faces and one thing leads to another which slowly starts an undeniable unhealthy obsession.
You have all these big named injectable nurses promoting that:
 “We’d all be sagging and wrinkling”
“Injectables decrease chances of wrinkles due to age”
Or they show photos like this ...

​Promoting that you will be prettier after you take a seat in their chair. I find it disgusting, not one mentions that the best way to prevent wrinkles starts from within and nothing is more important for you health and body then hydration. Your diet has a huge impact, its important to fuel it with lots of antioxidants, saturated fats + Omega3 is super important and its essential for glowing skin, using a non-toxic, chemical free skincare range as the more chemicals your products have the more damage they will do to your skin. Taking supplements can aid the help of a healthier body inside and out and girls you need your beauty sleep, getting enough sleep every night is critical. (Read my upcoming blog on wrinkles)
 
When you had someone as famous as Kylie Jenner having her lips done at the age of 17/18 this sends a concerning message to many others the same age thinking its okay to get them that young. 
My question is why are there so many girls as young as 18 years of age beginning facial filler injectables?
 
When I was growing up I remember being so weird, hanging out with my friends jumping on the trampoline playing board games and just enjoying growing up…  Its crazy how different growing up is now compared to 8-10 years ago. Having a childhood is so important for your development. 
 
I want clarify by saying this blog may be confrontational to some as some of the topics I talk about are very relatable to some girls and women who are very close friends and family to me. I want to state clearly that I’m in no way passing judgment or criticizing girls and women who this implies to. My aim of my business is to promote self-love, respect, worth and confidence. I want to influence girls and women to be 110% confident in themselves without all these added enhancements because EVERYONE is beautiful in their own unique way. I know that these treatments do have a huge impact and it does make girls and women feel happier and more confident which is great or they just simply like them, which is fine also. But if you use these treatments to mask a feeling how do you ever expect to feel confident in your own skin ever again? When does enough become enough?
 
My friend and I were walking the other day and were talking about life, and my business, botox and girls and women with lack of self love and I told her I used to be very insecure and nothing like I am today and she was flabbergasted She turned to me and said “But you’re so confident I cant picture you ever being shy and insecure” In past blogs I’ve explained what I used to be like, I was unbearable, ruled by my emotions, insecure and cried almost everyday I was not a fun person to be around. But one day I decided to move forward and look at the bigger picture, and started to fight and take control of my life again. I feel like I can connect with all you beautiful girls and women struggling I know your pain, I know how scary it is to put your whole natural self out there, I’ve been there for years and years where I loathed myself and thought I didn’t deserve anything but unhappiness.  I changed my hair colour heaps of times, tried diet after diet, starved myself, couldn’t leave the house without tan or make up.  In the end, doing these things didn’t help me feel better if anything it made me feel worse… WHY? Because I deprived my body of the fuel it needed to be healthy, I ruined my hair because I thought changing my colour would make me feel better. It didn’t. It only damaged it. I admit that in the last year I did get hair extensions because I hated how thin my hair was and yes for the time I did love having long locks, but I do now enjoy and embrace my short hair as its healthier than its ever been and it looks natural. I had lip fillers this year because I wanted to see what the big deal was and to be honest at the time I thought what the fuck have I done? But they’ve settled and I don’t mind them but I’m not rushing back to get them done anytime soon because I’m happy with how my lips are/were.
 
I love my life, yes there are days that I want to scream and I feel defeated but I don’t dwell on it because no matter what life throws at me I’m strong, I’m a fighter I know everything will be okay like the famous Bethany Hamilton says:“I've learned life is a lot like surfing. When you get caught in the impact zone, you need to get right back up, because you never know what's over the next wave... and if you have faith, anything is possible, anything at all”
 
Ill admit if you had of asked my opinion 1 week ago on my feeling towards botox and other cosmetic procedures I would of been quite cynical BUT I have changed my approach as I don’t think they are as bad as I previously thought. Yes I do believe girls are getting them too young as they are meant for women in their late 20s and older but at the end of the day if it makes you happy and confident then that’s a wonderful thing BUT don’t think you need them to feel beautiful because you don’t. Girls and women should want to grow older gracefully and enjoy life while they are young and not put too much pressure on themselves.
 
You are more than your appearance. If you think all you have to offer this world is your sex appeal, a smooth face, big lips, fit body than you’re mistaken.  Its about what’s within which is kindness, compassion, funniness, forgiveness, being friendly and approachable, the list goes on... Your value is not limited to your appearance its so much more than that and girls and women need to start believing that they are so much more than their appearance.
 
This is my message to you beautiful girls and women:
 
Nothing makes a woman more beautiful then the belief that she is beautiful. Inhale confidence exhale doubt. You deserve the world.
 
 
Much love
Bek xx

Continuing on from Part One ....
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This is the actual reason I wrote this piece, is not to blab on about my troubles, but to address the issues we as a global community deal with EVERYDAY how we link our self-worth to like situations. 
When we are challenged with anything, our brains first response is to be defensive of our actions and is designed to protect us. But, how come whenever it comes to the heartache at the hands of another, we allow ourselves to question our self-worth? Now I will address the heartbreak of a relationship, cause lets add that to the list of heartache I am dealing with… currently.
 
Where to start, dating is hard, right? I mean, putting yourself out there, those first initial awkward ‘get to know the person’ dates, the first intimate encounter… will they like it if I do it this way? I wonder if I’m a good kisser?! The list goes on. Then there’s the questioning of what’s happening, are we exclusive, open or nothing? Am I just a root and boot? Does he like me? Will he cheat on me? Will he use me? All these things and more play on our minds at one stage or another. What works for one couple does not necessarily work for others. Everyone has their two cents to put in and then you are left unsure and questioning yourself.

The latest dating saga in my life has honestly left me… confused. It was only happening for a month, but it genuinely felt like it had been going on for what felt like ever. It was going so great and we get along so well, but as it started to get more serious he started to become more closed off. Generally speaking he wasn’t the best at communicating or expressing himself and he had a lot of his own issues he needed to deal with before he could let me be apart of his life, but at times I have questioned my self-worth due to my own insecurities (which were by no means his fault).

I remember asking myself if I was loveable… which flowed into what’s wrong with me? Am I not worth the time and effort? It all seems so silly doesn’t it? It’s all bullshit. We don’t need no man, friend, family member or ANYONE for a matter of fact to tell you whether we are worthy or good enough for someone or something. But, that’s not the case in today’s society and its not necessarily people telling us what we can have and what we cant but its fixed into the younger generation and even my generation and probably every generation that we need to be validated by someone other than ourselves.

Why? I feel sad we live in a society like this and I feel like I betrayed myself by letting my demons appear at the surface and pushed someone away that could have really been something great for me. I know it was wrong timing, for both of us but I have so much respect and nothing but nice things to say about this above mentioned knight that I feel like I owe him an apology for being a lesser version of myself. I didn’t show him the ONLY side of myself that I should be expressing which is the loyal, caring, generous, funny, vivacious person with a massive heart. Instead I showed him the person he didn’t want to be around; the sassy, moody, grumpy and sometimes (most of the time) difficult to handle insecure demon. I know that to eventually let someone into my life and to make it work I need to deal with my insecurities, but I will never, ever be validated by someone other than myself. WHY? Because I am not a possession, I am a person and I am the only person who decides who I am, what I’m going to be and how I should be treated. I know I deserve nothing less than the best and if the person I end up with cannot accept me at my worst, than they certainly do not deserve me at my best.
 
I recently stumbled across a quote on my path to curbing my insecurities and it states this: “You’re a highly sensitive person and well, that’s okay. Sometimes you often wish people would understand you, but they don’t look at it from a deeper level like you. You feel deeper than the average person, so reacting with your emotions is normal. Being so sensitive causes you to love harder, to be more intuitive and feel everything around you.” It made me come to terms with the fact that I wear my heart on my sleeve and with every fibre of my being you know what mood I am in from looking at me. Sometimes it’s a good thing and sometimes it can mean that I need to work on how to cope with my emotions better. For this experience, it taught me that maybe I shouldn’t have been so quick to assume the worst first up. However, I know my worth and what I’m worth was not his version of what I was worth at the time, he had his own issues and couldn’t commit to me like I needed him to. And that is okay. I mean it hurt like hell. But it taught to never make an effort for someone that would not make the same effort for you. I promised myself after my previous relationship that never again would I let someone question my self worth and although I have a lot of learning to do, I got out relatively unscathed.
 
So, I will leave you with this. If I am questioning my self-worth and promoting self-love, am I a liar? I don’t think so. I believe that we all have our war wounds, but if we can pick each other up and learn to acknowledge when we are feeling negative feelings and try and see it as a lesson learnt or an opportunity to grasp rather than a failed relationship or whatever scenario it relates to for you, we can all learn to love ourselves a little more and let go of what might be holding us back. For me, it’s my insecurities. But I will get there and for anyone who is struggling at the moment, you will get there too. It’s a long road to success, but it’s worth every single step if you can look back and say you gave it your absolute best to try and be the BEST VERSION OF YOU!
 
To anyone out there struggling, please take a deep breath and relax. Close your eyes and envision what you want to be like, do not compare yourself now. No, simply look at yourself in 1 month, 2 years or a decade and visualize where you will be, what you will be doing, what you will have achieved and what is to come and believe it. Whatever you can believe can definitely be achieved. Keep pushing through today and whatever obstacle is challenging you in the now and these seemingly dark days will become brighter and lighter, filled with everything you could possibly conjure into your life and more if you are willing to take that plunge and change your mind and bad habits.
 
Thank you for reading, with love,
Bek xoxo 

Hey Gals,
 
I realise it has been a long time since my last blog but you all know how life gets in the way sometimes… so, here I am ready and rearing to type up another one for you all. It has been a bit chaotic for the last few months, hence the delay in posting another piece and although some days have been dark and I’ve been challenged both mentally and physically, I can say with pride that I have started to make some positive changes in most aspects of my life in my journey to becoming a healthy and happier person.
 
Now, I apologise in advance if my modesty causes you maximum discomfort but I’m not gonna beat around the bush, I’m giving you my cold, hard version of what I define heartbreak as and everything that comes along with it; the challenges, opportunities and lessons that encase it.
 
So, what is heartbreak? Heartbreak (by Google definitions) is described as ‘overwhelming distress’ or ‘an unforgettable tale of joy and heartbreak.’  Of course, you all probably assume that I’m talking about the heartbreak you get from the men in our lives, am I right? Well, I’m not. As much as boys (and ourselves, often) would love to think they hold our heart in their hands, we all are sadly mistaken. I am talking about what feels like the most physically unbearable pain you could possibly imagine… what feels like your heart is actually being crushed or broken into pieces right then and there, the unstoppable burning feeling that comes with the heartbreak we feel in all shapes, forms and volumes. The magnitude of which we experience heartbreak in our lives often varies and I firmly believe it does not occur just once in our physical life. For me, this year I have dealt with heartbreak frequently. I compare it to when you are in deep water at a surf beach and you get caught in waves that constantly dump you over and over and you get caught inside the swell that you feel like you will never resurface. Have you ever felt that? The worst thing after this experience is when you finally do resurface you feel as though your heart and lungs are going to explode and the burning sensation is unimaginable. The emotions associated with this feeling and the aftermath of it is quite overwhelming and you can feel fear, anger, relief, distress etc.

​Sometimes you look back on the scenario and you feel those emotions encompass you as if it’s happening all over again and it’s a frightening feeling because you don’t want to have to deal with it again. It’s similar to heartbreak, you often don’t get a choice as to when your mind revisits certain situations that cause you heartbreak and those emotions associated with those scenarios are once again, back. For me, this year has already been full of heartbreak, in different magnitudes and shapes and forms. Watching my parents separate after 23 years of a tried marriage was hard but was expected so I had some time to process these emotions through the whole separation, seeing my dad move up to Cairns and taking with him a small piece of my heart in our dog Murphy was painful to endure, realizing my youngest sister was choosing to move in with my oldest sister whilst I decided to stay with my mum caused me so much resentment and anger, consistently seeing all the struggles and battles my grandpa is fighting currently with illness is frightening and depressing to say the least, working below average hours at a local café that was paying the minimum wage that ultimately pushed me further into financial distress and the break ups of friendships that caused confusion and betrayal are just a few of MY heartbreaks that have challenged and pushed me to my limits thus far. These heartbreaks have tested me to my limits, challenged my mental state and altered my physical state (when you are sad and unmotivated, you lack self-care), I was and still am to an extent, so f******* angry all the time. This anger stemmed from bitterness, resentment, sadness, disappointment, distress and genuine heartache. I ultimately felt (and to be honest sometimes still do) feel broken, when realistically I know I am not. I am not broken.
 
Although I couldn’t see it at the time, even though I was feeling heartache in all its beauty (and that’s just what it is; beautiful), I never once thought to reflect and see how these situations have affected me and my life in a positive way. Through feeling miserable at my horrible paid job I finally got my butt into gear and got my traffic tickets and got a job earning double my weekly salary as a traffic controller so I can afford to go on my first trip to Bali with my two cousins and her boyfriend AND I made amazing friendships… from my dad moving away it has given us the time to actually miss each other instead of clashing and resenting each other’s presence; not to mention I am going up on a holiday to his boat in June and although my grandpa is fighting continuously it has taught me perseverance and allowed me to make the most of the time I have with him… I learnt from feeling heartbreak from someone I considered one of my closest friends to always stand up for myself and never hold my tongue even to avoid a confrontation if I was being treated poorly. These scenarios, which have given me heartbreak, have also given me the opportunity build myself up and learn from these experiences. I can now try and see them as positive situations. I am by no means perfect and I will never try to be, but I am learning and I know for a fact I am surrounded by amazing opportunities that I need to take.
 
It has also given me some time to reflect about not only my life, but those of people within our society and around the world; young, old and everything in between. We are all going through similar situations and no one’s situation is harder than another’ because everyone copes with things differently and in the end, it’s always a chance to improve and learn. 

Too be continued .... 

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2. Moisturiser is essential
Apply moisturiser after you cleanse your face morning and night, this will help people that suffer with dry skin, sensitive skin and improve skin tone and texture. 

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Stay away from processed foods where you can, and eat a healthy balanced diet filled with fruits, vegetables, greens and vitamins. Vitamin C can help to give you a healthy radiant glow.

4. Exercise Exercise Exercise
It took me so long to understand this but working out allows you to sweat out and eliminate bad toxins in your body and make you feel happier. 

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Keeping yourself hydrated is super important. Drink at least 2 litres or 8 glasses of water every day.